How to deal with rejections.
Rejection is one of the hardest emotions to deal with. It may be rejections in a marriage. Rejections at work. Rejections by a friend. When I felt rejected in several situations, it almost crushed me. And not only me, it happens to everyone, at any time, regardless of your status in life.
People in stable, long-term relationships and even marriages often feel rejected by their partner at one time or another. While some are not actually deep, repetitions over a long period of time could be extremely painful. Being repeatedly rejected by anyone can damage your self-esteem- and worse, the entire relationship.
And when anyone deals with this kind of situation, how do we feel?
Often times we would ask ourselves? What is wrong with me? Where did I go wrong?
While some may recover in days, or weeks, or months, some others may find difficult to move on for years.
Been there and it happened because I am often hesitant to talk about it. When I opened up the situation once, and nothing worked out, it would be difficult to talk about the same story over and over again and risking another talk of the same situation will often end up to a major fight. And it made me unhappy.
However, keeping silent would not be helpful too. It will only develop bottled- anger that is waiting to explode. Sounds bad, isnt it?
Talk about it at the same time allot time and space for them to respond.
Everything shall pass. Soon. Might not be now but soon for sure. Even if you find some temporary solution to subside the pain like food or alcohol, or partying, or dating, just to gain back your self-confidence, the pain will not go. Let it pass. Let it pass naturally.
And remember, it’s not always about you! Do not blame yourself alone. It’s not only about you. It’s not always your mistake! Often times, it may be sets of a different point of views, different outlook on life, different background, different styles, different requirements, compatibility, environment, past and present situations that’s why it happened.
You wont be hired as a cook if your forte is to sing.
You won’t blend with people doing exactly the opposites of what you like.
You cant make a person fall in love with you if they are in love with someone else.
Got the cliche?
When rejected, allow yourself time to consume and think about it. Analyze, write it down, do the power of sharing, and plan accordingly.
And ask yourself; Should you stay? Should you go?
If you go right now, where would you be?
Are the rejections right now enough to tolerate the pain for the rest of your life?
Is it gonna be worthy?
Weigh things out, and if you realize the right answer, do it.